To Every Man; Be her HERO

I’ve thought a bit about the topic I am going to embark on writing, deliberating whether to write or not, will it be misconstrued as a rant or projected to a higher level and understood as the epistle from the heart that aspires to create change. 

I’ve looked around and found a gaping hole, a wound of silence, particularly as it reverberated through our households, destroyed communities and lacerated the most weak, our children. 

I cannot sit back and say nothing, otherwise I am right alongside the perpetrators, allowing them to have the freedom to proliferate their terrible deeds and twisted strategies. 

Ok, I started off strong and harsh. You must be thinking, get to the point. Well, the point was to get your attention, so I’ve got you there!

You will understand soon enough what I mean. 

It is a given that in most communities, cultures and countries, men are the head of the households. They are supposed to look after the well being of their families on every level, material, emotional and spiritual. They are supposed to be at the front lines heading off attacks and setting captives free. Warriors. Liberators. 

Looking around, and perhaps it is only my experience, but I would say that more women than men tend to care about the events transpiring around them and actually trying to do something. Women try so hard to uphold the role of men, the cultural leadership gap that they are leaving behind. 

And yet, as the weaker sex we try and try but it doesn’t seem to catch on so much with the men. 

For example, lets talk about sexual trafficking. I am so fed up with this topic. It pains me and makes me so mad. I want to save all those girls (and boys!) from lives they were never meant to have. I am not going to blame the men, all men for this woeful phenomena, this degrading exploitation. I won’t. But what I want to start talking about is this: Why is it that at every presentation we tend to only discuss getting ladies out of their predicament, which is almost impossible. We know the sad statistics that most don’t ever get out or if they do, they tend to go back to the life they know. Why are we not talking about the preventative measures? 

Before you start getting upset, I do know indeed that in a whole lot of places around the world, the women themselves groom the girls for this life. They may even sell their children and consider that normal and expected. 

But if the men are indeed the stronger sex, the ones that meant to be heads of something, why are they not heading this movement towards preventing these atrocities? Come on, Ashton Kutcher cannot do this alone. He needs, you, everyday Joe. 

Ok, you got me, princess. What am I meant to do? It is flipping simple, really. Raise good men. 
You are an example to the young men and children around you. They will imitate you because for the little ones you are their hero. So be the true hero, indeed. 

Love your wife. Love your children. Teach your little sons to look after their little sisters and other little girls. Tell them to protect the ladies and always have their back. Show the boys that the ladies around you are not property or only seen as sexual objects but as wonderful, effervescent creations of God that must be treated kindly, with respect and humility. Adoration. Teach them the value of love and compassion. All the very strong values that will truly make a man a MAN. 

Don’t get it twisted that your sentimental outpouring will make you less manly. I’ve not found anything sexier than a kind man. Nothing manlier than a compassionate man. 

That’s the kind of man I always want to have around. 

Be the HERO to HER. That’s what it’s all about. Share this message! 

Where are you hiding brave men? Our little girls and women are crying out for change, for hope, for a savior. And yes, they do need Jesus, but why can’t you be His hands here on Earth? 

There needs to be a move of strong men, brave men, HEROES. This may not be you, but your sons could be! Teach them while they are young and they will not stray from that path. I am desperate to see a preventative strategy in this worldwide problem and not just a band aid, with our sorry boohoos. 

Maya playing with a little boy at the park. It was his car and he was kindly sharing! 

If you feel like you want to give back in some way, please visit

Have a look at the stories of Rebekah Griffin. She’s dedicated years of her life to fighting the good fight, saving the ladies from the lives and lies of sexual trafficking. 

Every little bit counts. Every little word counts. 
Keep spreading the word and you will be My HERO.


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